The Value of Influence

The value of influence…

Similar words have been spoken in many different ways, and each one has the same meaning. We have the power to influence people, both positively and negatively. With our actions, with our words, with our nonactions, with our silence, with our strength, with our weaknesses, with the way we live our lives and with how we treat people, and so much more.

Everything we do, every decision we make that impacts us will also impact others. Think I’m wrong? If you use drugs, it harms you. If you steal money so you can buy those drugs, it not only harms you but it harms those who you stole from. If you get high and you get behind the wheel of a car and get into a car accident, you not only damage your car, but someone else’s. Heaven forbid someone in the other vehicle is hurt, or worse, killed. That is the power of your decisions, which influences the behavior of others.

Still think I’m wrong?

If you are in that accident while under the influence, and you kill someone, that person’s loved ones will be effected, their decision making could be changed on how they feel about DUI/DWI and how they feel about you, the person who caused the accident that killed their loved one.

On New Year’s Day 2012, a drunk driver hit a car at 10:30 in the morning. That car was carrying a family heading to church. The father was hurt, as was the mother. The oldest child was shook up. The youngest was killed. It altered that family’s life and that driver’s life as well, forever. That little girl will not grow up, get married, have children, become a grandmother.

The driver’s family was shocked and ashamed of what their son had done. They were saddened and angered and heartbroken as well. Two families lives were changed because of one action, something that could have been prevented. It was a negative on so many lives.

That is the power of decisions, which influence what happens when they are made.

Then there is the true power of influence, an action that someone sees that either empowers them to do something or influences what someone does.

I love this commercial:

Did you watch it? One person’s good deed led another person to do something good as well.

Flip that. One person’s bad attitude, bad day can have the same influence on those around him/her. If you snap off at someone because things aren’t going well for you, then you could influence that person’s day to going from good to bad in seconds.


We have the power to influence, the power to help folks who are struggling, the power to say a kind word instead of a negative one. We have the power to change our own attitudes, and in the process help others do the same.

Our world is in dire need of positive influences. We see so much negativity on the news, on television shows, in movies, during sporting events, at work, at home… and the list just goes on and on and on. We are an unhappy people, and so many of us are influenced by our negative surroundings.

Michael Jackson sang about changing his ways, changing our ways in the song, Man In the Mirror. I love the song, the meaning.

Talk about the power of influence. Can you—can we—make a positive difference in someone’s life? Tell someone they are special. Compliment someone on a job well done or for just being a good person. Give a struggling person a boost of confidence. Say something nice, or better yet, do something nice.

As I said earlier, our world is in dire need of some positive influences, but that doesn’t mean some celebrity needs to be that positive influence. You have the power to influence people around you, both negatively and positively.

You can make a difference.

Back to the story about the family who was hit by a drunk driver on New Year’s Day of 2012. After the youngest child died, the father and mother sought out the driver who caused this horrible tragedy. They didn’t seek him out to yell at him, to blame him for their daughter’s death, to curse him. They sought him out to forgive him…

I don’t know if I could have done that, but that is true power of positive influence.

Until we meet again, my friends…